The Real ‘New Normal’: The Robinson-Coleman Family

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Posted Wed, Sep 25, 2013

FAMILY AFFAIR: Coleman and Robinson are ironically raising three boys, two being fraternal twins, and one coming from Coleman’s previous relationship.

FAMILY AFFAIR: Natosha Robinson and Arlitta Coleman are raising three boys, two being fraternal twins, and one coming from Coleman’s previous relationship.

DENVER — As if defending their relationship on a daily basis isn’t enough, same sex couples also deal with the controversy surrounding same sex parenting and what’s best for the welfare of the child.

Last fall, Ryan Murphy, profound producer of hit series Glee, brought his reality to television. He shot the pilot of The New Normal, which was based upon him and his life partner as they find a surrogate mother to have their first child. For many this was beneficial for the gay community, because it showed that same-sex couples are just as fit parents as heterosexual mates.

Controversies such as confusing the child of male and female roles, and raising them in an environment that could more than likely make them gay as well, surrounds homosexuals as parents.

ONE-YEAR ANNIVERSARY
Natosha Robinson and Arlitta Coleman, a lesbian couple, who have just celebrated their one-year anniversary, are proud same sex parents. They met at a house warming party a little over two years ago. They dated for one year, and then decided to obtain their Civil Union license on July, 24, 2012.

“Sometimes you just know,” Coleman says, who dated men for most of her life. “It’s an honor to marry your best friend,” she posted on Facebook on the morning of their anniversary.

“We love our children unconditionally," Coleman says. " We have our problems, but we deal with them the way a family should."

“We love our children unconditionally,” Coleman (Right)  says. ” We have our problems, but we deal with them the way a family should.”

Coleman and Robinson are ironically raising three boys, two are fraternal twins, and other is from Coleman’s previous relationship. The couple was very open and kind people about their household, and how their lifestyle is nothing different from any other family.

“We love our children unconditionally,” Coleman says. ” We have our problems, but we deal with them the way a family should.”

With the toddlers, Ayden and Aubrey, 2, who took their non-biological parent’s last name, Robinson waking up early, and their oldest, Ladavian, 6, having to be at school and football practice, Robinson and Coleman are very busy mothers.

“We try to keep them as busy as we can,” Robinson says. “They are young boys, who are growing and active all the time.”

LITTLE KINGS
They spend most of their time at the park across the street of their Denver home or having cookouts in the backyard, while playing games such as their favorite, “duck, duck goose.”

Their “little kings” all share similar features, but have very distinct personalities. The oldest, Ladavian, has a certain charm about himself — going through a “too cool for school” phase. The uniquely named middle child, Aubrey is softly spoken and well mannered. And then there’s the baby, Ayden, their little wild child, who is extremely active and well-spoken to be a 2 year-old. Coleman, the biological mother, is passionate about her feelings regarding the statistics of children growing up in same-sex households being more likely to be gay.

Their “little kings” all share similar features, but have very distinct personalities. The oldest, Ladavian, has a certain charm about himself — going through a “too cool for school” phase.

Their “little kings” all share similar features, but have very distinct personalities. The oldest, Ladavian (Middle), has a certain charm about himself — going through a “too cool for school” phase.

“I don’t expect my kids to be gay because I’m gay,” Coleman explains. “I wouldn’t want that for my sons. Being a gay man is harder than being a lesbian woman.”

Coleman underlines the fact that society doesn’t take lesbian couples serious, because they look at it as a “phase” jokingly saying, “I don’t know how many times me and my wife have been bombarded with request from men, it’s insulting.”

SUPPORT SYSTEM
Although single mothers raise boys to men every day, “how can two women raise a son and teach him how to be a man?” is a common question society wonders when it comes to lesbian couple raising young men.

“We have a strong support system,” Coleman says. “My boys not only has each other, but they have uncles and grandfathers, who are willing to teach and help us successfully raise our boys.”

Coleman and Robinson also have their own ways of teaching their sons responsibility — especially the oldest who is in charge of taking out the garbage every week, keeping his room clean and helping look after the twins when their mommies are occupied.

“A child can never have too much love,” Robinson says punctuating how she feels about her being a parent to children, who by law, are not related to her. “God gave me this opportunity as a human being, they are my family, and I will be nothing but a parent to them, despite how society looks at it.”

Coleman adds that’s why it was important that the twins take Robinson’s last name. “They deserved it. They deserved to have a piece of this wonderful person a part of them.”

She reflects how Ladavian adjusted to the change of adding two siblings and a new parent, who was also a woman. Coleman replies simply, with “time.”

Coleman reflects how Ladavian adjusted to the change of adding two siblings and a new parent, who was also a woman. Coleman replies simply, with “time.”

GOD WILL CONTINUE TO BLESS US
Before Coleman’s relationship with Robinson, she was a single mother for six years with one child. She reflects how Ladavian adjusted to the change of adding two siblings and a new parent, who was also a woman. Coleman replies simply, with “time.”

“It took time for everyone around me to adjust to my lifestyle,” Coleman says, “because it was unusual.  But we are here now, better than other.”

Some studies are in favor of same-sex parenting say that children will be raised in a healthier environment of acceptance and love. Coleman says, “They would give same-sex couples mentally challenged babies before they would a ‘normal’ family because we accept everyone and have a better patience for children.”

Though some would disagree Colemn explains that her and Robinson raise their children in a way that comforts them and not in a way that is “traditional” because they know that traditional isn’t their lifestyle.

When Ryan Murphy wrote The New Normal he invited society into a new world showing that blood makes you related, but love and support makes you family. The Robinson-Coleman clan plans to try for a girl in the fall.

“We are continuing to grow,” Coleman says, “and as long as we love the way we have been loving each other, God will continue to bless us.”

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5 Responses to “The Real ‘New Normal’: The Robinson-Coleman Family”

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    I really enjoyed this. I have heard about couples having these problems and how many people think that a same sex couple will raise “gay children”. They assume that they cannot play the role of parent correctly which is absurd.

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